Life Lately

** tomorrow Tiny Tin Bird will be four weeks old. The time is still whizzing past! This time four weeks ago I was labouring with lovely gas and air and feeling fabulous as I thought things were on their way. They were not, but hey ho he’s here now.

** The “feeding every hour” thing was clearly a growth spurt, I had him weighed on Monday and he is now a whopping 10lb 12oz! That’s a gain of 1lb 03oz in 10 days. Chubber. He hasn’t been feeding so often these last few days and the past two nights I’ve had 2 hours between night feeds and am feeling pretty good.

** We have started using reusable nappies and I’m impressed so far. We bought 8 Little Lamb OSFA nappies and they’re pretty easy to use. I need to wash them all now so we are still using disposables as well but I’m keen to reduce the disposables as much as possible because a) they fill up my bin so QUICKLY, b) they are hugely wasteful and it makes me feel very guilty to be sending them to landfill as they pretty much never degrade and c) have you SEEN how much they COST??? At the moment it’s easily costing £10 a week on nappies alone. (I am glad I am breastfeeding … have you SEEN the COST of formula!)

They do give babies a comedy sized chunky bum though <3

** TTB is now in the next sized babygrow. This is partly because of the chunky reusable nappy bum and partly because his toes were getting all squished in the feet of the 1 month size.

**I don’t know where he gets his height from.

** On Tuesday, Rach and Rob visited us to meet TTB and this is the first time I have seen them since they married. Rach brought us lots of lovely handmade goodies including a little red duffle coat which I managed to wrangle on to a sleepy, floopy baby for a photo. In case you’re wondering, that’s his rosebud mouth face that he’s doing there.

** Yesterday I took him to work to meet everyone. Everyone loved him. How could they not? It was a bit surreal going there though, I haven’t been there since the 3rd August! He was so well behaved and 30 minutes or so was the perfect amount of time to take him there.

** Later on we went out with the pram again because I had a jaffa cake related emergency. As in I had run out. Pushing my pram up all these hills feels like good exercise, especially when there is shopping in the basket.

** I still feel quite good about what I get done in a day, but I do feel a bit like I’m winging it and that things will change once he’s awake more. He’s already starting to be awake more in the day and I feel a bit guilty but I am not quite sure what you do with a baby at this age when they’re awake … mostly just hold him I think since he likes that, and show him everything as he is keen to see what’s going on. We’re trying tummy time but he’s not a fan so far.

** I have new boots. I need to scotch guard them before I can wear them.

** My photobook came from photobox, it’s lush and I am SO glad that I spent the money to do it.

** I’m still working on my birth story, it’s taking ages as I’m quite detail obsessed and my typing time is limited.

** One big thing that I have learnt is that I should not expect to get anything done in the evening. Making sure I eat and get me and TTB to bed before 10 is the most important thing. I felt better once I let that go.

**I need to do a better bedtime routine but for now I’m just glad that he sleeps at night at all!

** I can’t wait for two weeks time when I can stop wearing flight socks in bed.

** I love all the comments you leave me, I really really love getting them. It feels very supportive right now in what can be quite a lonely time. Thank you <3

** When I went out for a walk yesterday the smell of autumn in the air was amazing. I love autumn in theory, but I would love it a whole lot more if the daylight hours were longer. I struggle with the lack of daylight, it makes me feel like things are closing in on me. I have had a couple of wobbles this week but on thinking about them I realised that they are season related and not baby related, as I feel like this every year!

** I have been doing a little bit of crochet but it’s hard to fit it in. I am trying though, because I don’t want to stop.

** I have booked a haircut and am very, very excited about this.

That’s about it for now!

xxx

43 thoughts on “Life Lately

  1. Victoria says:

    I’m going to have to stop reading your blog because you make me want another baby! I love TTB’s starry sleep suit. I am no breastfeeding evangelist (I didn’t love doing it, but I didn’t hate it enough not to) but it really is so much better than washing and sterilising bottles (I did mixed feeding with #1, breastfeeding only with #2). And don’t let people try to convince you that you’ve done enough by 6 months/whenever you introduce solids – that is when the bf gets really easy!
    You are obviously doing an amazing job and don’t worry about the sleep – It’ll probably sort itself out soon.
    xxx

    p.s. And anyone who tells you their 4 week old baby is already sleeping through the night is probably not being entirely truthful!

  2. Linda Nichols says:

    I am a reader from Washington state, US. I read your blog regularly and smile every day and even though I don’t know you, I am feeling proud of you! You are doing a great job of taking care of your baby and enjoying him. You have adjusted amazingly to this huge change and I hope you are giving yourself credit in spite of a few “wobbles.” I pray blessings on you and your family.

  3. Liz J says:

    Tiny Tin bird looks so strong holding his back and head so straight over your shoulder.His hair looks so tempting to stroke.The picture in the red duffle coat is fab particularly of his button mouth.You are doing amazingly well.Keep up the good work.I had a big baby boy first and his first growth spurt really involved almost constant feeding and plenty of stout or Guinness for the breast feeding mum.Plus dark chocolate and squidgy dried apricots which my friend told me were rich sources of iron.

  4. TTB is positively thriving and you’re looking well too. (Mustn’t forget Mum, it’s all too easy for Baby to get all the attention :D )

    4 week old babies don’t go through the night. I know some 4 year olds that still don’t! Having said that, all mine went round the clock from about 7 weeks, yeah smug, I know ;)

    Don’t worry about housework and stuff, it’s always there, it never goes away. Plenty of time for that once you’re both more into a stable routine.

  5. Lynne says:

    Awh – you both are looking great. Enjoy this time – it really doesn’t last long. Just remember to look after yourself just as much as TTB – he needs a ‘well’ mummy. Sleep is so often seen as the holy grail, and understandably. You need to find what works for you but I would highly recommend ‘The Good Sleep Guide’ by Angela Henderson (http://www.amazon.co.uk/Good-Sleep-Guide-Your-Baby/dp/1903458358) common sense stuff which allows you to decide what works best for you (unlike some other VERY regimented regimes which I personally just couldn’t deal with). Gave my copy away years ago (youngest is now 6 years) otherwise would have posted it to you.

  6. Lynne says:

    Awh – you both are looking great. Enjoy this time – it really doesn\’t last long. Just remember to look after yourself just as much as TTB – he needs a \’well\’ mummy. Sleep is so often seen as the holy grail, and understandably. You need to find what works for you but I would highly recommend \’The Good Sleep Guide\’ by Angela Henderson (http://www.amazon.co.uk/Good-Sleep-Guide-Your-Baby/dp/1903458358) common sense stuff which allows you to decide what works best for you (unlike some other VERY regimented regimes which I personally just couldn\’t deal with). Gave my copy away years ago (youngest is now 6 years) otherwise would have posted it to you.

  7. Adele says:

    Well done the three of you. It is a little lonely to start with I agree, but you can start looking out for groups to go to with him as well. Have a look in your library to see if anything you might be interested in is happening. It’s early days indeed, but you seem to be level headed: enjoy.

  8. I think you are doing a great job. The best thing you can do now is to enjoy baby time and soak up all those baby smells and cuddles. I am proud of you for using the reusable nappies. My daughter, who is due in January, is planning on doing the same and it makes me feel good to know there are still mothers and fathers out there who care about the earth and want to do the environmental thing. Also, as you said, disposables are sooooo expensive. After the initial cost of the reusable ones, it’s much cheaper.

    Love the chunky bum photo and the rosebud mouth photo. He is adorable.

    Hugs,
    Sharon

  9. Anne Marie says:

    Just enjoy it and make sure you have some time to yourself too. Having your hair cut will give you a bit of a treat, it’s lovely just sitting there and having people doing things to your hair!

  10. Heather you are doing so well … being an amazing new mummy … just cut yourself some slack wherever is needed and go with the flow … loving that big bum :) … Bee xx

  11. I too use a mix of both cloth and disposable nappies. The only real problem with cloth nappies is that even when using a nappy cover I still end up having to change his clothes too because they get wet.
    Enjoy getting out and about with your pram, I did a lot of walking with my first but when my second came along all of a sudden I was limited by the speed and distance that a toddler’s legs could cope with. And it is EXTREMELY difficult trying to carry one child and push a pusher at the same time!
    xXx Helen

  12. Louise says:

    TTB looks so CUTE in that back view! Breastfeeding used to give me so much satisfaction if only for all the money we saved! Isn’t it clever how nature gives us this fabulous food to give our babies – for FREE! You’re looking great!

  13. Katharina says:

    Oh, I can remember, when my baby was 4 weeks old… Ok, to be honest, I don’t really “remember” it (and it is only two years ago… so much happend in this time :-) ), but we have plenty of pictures and I tried to write a diary and make notes about every new thing that happend. Actually, I get a bit careless, when baby get older…
    I was also unsure what to do, when the sleeping time get shorter. Cuddling was always a good idea :-)

  14. Katharina says:

    Oh, I can remember, when my baby was 4 weeks old… Ok, to be honest, I don’t really ‘remember’ it (and it is only two years ago… so much happend in this time :-) ), but we have plenty of pictures and I tried to write a diary and make notes about every new thing that happend. Actually, I get a bit careless, when baby get older…
    I was also unsure what to do, when the sleeping time get shorter. Cuddling was always a good idea :-)

  15. Judy says:

    Four Weeks!! He is growing so much and I love the jacket. I appreciate that you are sharing him with all of us and it seems like you all are part of my family that’s far away.:) Remember the house will always be there but he will only be this age once. Just enjoy him and Andy!!!! My daughter used those diapers and they save tons of money and you’re not filling up the landfill!! You are looking great!!!

  16. Brenda says:

    Hi heather, TTB and you are looking wonderful, remember to take care of yourself, look out for new mothers groups in your area, they are priceless, my closest friends are people I met at new mums when my 17 year old was a new born. xxBrenda

  17. One-oh-four says:

    Awwww, love that podgy nappy bum! He looks adorable:) Disposable nappies are pricey – I had two babies in nappies for 16 months – luckily a friend with a cash and carry account took pity on us and got us a card through his business so we bought them wholesale. The boxes made great toy storage as well, and for packing up outgrown clothing ready for the next user.

    You sound like you are doing really well and not getting too hung up about things like lack of sleep – just go with the flow and nap during the day as much as you can. It will all change in a week or two when TTB realises that “daytime is playtime”, and then he will probably sleep more at night.

  18. Suzannah Hawtin says:

    You’re doing so well!
    I’ve cloth bummed two boys and I’ve got a third on the way (although a girl this time! Girly nappies to buy!)
    There are lots of Facebook groups to buy second hand cloth – which is brilliant. Saves a lot of money :)
    There are SO many different kinds of nappies out there, it’s crazy. Happy to help, anytime x

  19. Suzannah Hawtin says:

    You’re doing so well!
    I’ve cloth bummed two boys and I\’ve got a third on the way (although a girl this time! Girly nappies to buy!)
    There are lots of Facebook groups to buy second hand cloth – which is brilliant. Saves a lot of money :)
    There are SO many different kinds of nappies out there, it\’s crazy. Happy to help, anytime x

  20. chinagirl says:

    awww you are doing AMAZINGLY well :)..I too was able to get quite a bit done during these early days, so just go with the flow and enjoy it.
    You don’t need to be a full on entertainer for TTB, when he’s awake he may like to just lay soaking up sounds and sights. And the fresh air will help both you and him get a good kip at night ;)..and disposable nappies?..Just use them without guilt whenever you feel the need to!..My first born woke me every hour and a half for months at night and it was a sanity saver to not have to deal with soaking and washing nappies..you have the right to relax, breathe and take advantage of everything that will make life easier for you. Remember happy mum=happy baby!! And LET Andy takeover and do everything from time to time..my sister did everything, exhausted herself and spent years whining that her husband was useless and she brought the kids up by herself!..I was ‘lucky’ according to her that my hubby ‘helped’!! That means I LET him do things, let him make mistakes, let him struggle from time to time, expressed milk and went out so he had to feed, change, settle and be in sole charge and he became a 100% totally reliable awesome dad. I figured that while he was at work during the day..I was at work on baby duty, but when he was home then it was 50/50 joint care. Makes life a whole heap easier for you if you know he’s a fab’ back up!! And as the years go by he’ll have a great relationship with your kids and be a great role model.
    Anyway ’nuff said..I’m just super pleased that you seem to be relishing motherhood. You’ll be able to go to that cafe for knit and natter if it’s still on? Or find some other young mums to have a cuppa with during the day. I made a point of going out everyday for a cuppa just to get out of the house. Have fun and enjoy TTB, he’ll be a toddler before you know it!!

  21. chinagirl says:

    awww you are doing AMAZINGLY well :)..I too was able to get quite a bit done during these early days, so just go with the flow and enjoy it.
    You don\’t need to be a full on entertainer for TTB, when he\’s awake he may like to just lay soaking up sounds and sights. And the fresh air will help both you and him get a good kip at night ;)..and disposable nappies?..Just use them without guilt whenever you feel the need to!..My first born woke me every hour and a half for months at night and it was a sanity saver to not have to deal with soaking and washing nappies..you have the right to relax, breathe and take advantage of everything that will make life easier for you. Remember happy mum=happy baby!! And LET Andy takeover and do everything from time to time..my sister did everything, exhausted herself and spent years whining that her husband was useless and she brought the kids up by herself!..I was \’lucky\’ according to her that my hubby \’helped\’!! That means I LET him do things, let him make mistakes, let him struggle from time to time, expressed milk and went out so he had to feed, change, settle and be in sole charge and he became a 100% totally reliable awesome dad. I figured that while he was at work during the day..I was at work on baby duty, but when he was home then it was 50/50 joint care. Makes life a whole heap easier for you if you know he\’s a fab\’ back up!! And as the years go by he\’ll have a great relationship with your kids and be a great role model.
    Anyway \’nuff said..I\’m just super pleased that you seem to be relishing motherhood. You\’ll be able to go to that cafe for knit and natter if it\’s still on? Or find some other young mums to have a cuppa with during the day. I made a point of going out everyday for a cuppa just to get out of the house. Have fun and enjoy TTB, he\’ll be a toddler before you know it!!

  22. Well done to you for finding time to blog. It is lovely to hear what is going on in your world with Tiny Tin Bird although he’s not so tiny with all that growing he is doing. I must say it’s lovely to hear you are breastfeeding as I know some mums choose not too, especially if they have to go back to work soon after their baby is born. Can you imagine how much work it would be to get all those bottles prepared, sterilised and made up. Not to mention having to get up at night and heat them up. Breast milk is on tap, 24 7. :)
    I know how you feel about the diminishing light thing and the onset of winter. Although we are in spring and heading into summer downunder, autumn is always a bitter sweet time as I know cold, dark days are coming. If you have a moment, maybe try and think of the things you like to do to get you through winter and have a plan in place. It could be candles, or some bright flowers if your budget will stretch that far. I know Lucy lives in your neck of the woods so maybe she can pop around when her little one is at occasional care and that way you would have some company from time to time. I understand the lonely thing, it can be very isolating having a baby at home as much as we love having them.
    You should be very proud of yourself as you are doing great and don’t have the support of your family living nearby. You sound like such a sensible person, letting things go and not doing too much in the evening. Both you and your baby are the most important people right now and all those things will be waiting for you when he is older, is not feeding so much and sleeping more.
    Good luck with the non disposable nappies. I used mainly cloth on my girls years ago and had disposable for going out or emergencies. They do get rather big bottoms though as you mentioned and it does look quite funny but very cute.
    Have a wonderful weekend Heather and a big kiss for TTB.
    Take care,
    Anne xx

  23. He looks gorgeous and you look beautiful, such a proud mummy! I remember the feeding every
    hour with all my boys during the night, think they though it was an all night smorgasbord lol.
    But it does get less and you do get more sleep, eventually. Love all the pics.
    We all love visiting your blog.

    wendy xo

  24. carrie says:

    You are both looking amazing, i am pleased you are doing so well. Babies just love to lie on the floor or sit in their car seats looking and listening, and there is always cuddling time, happy days xxx

  25. Your photo’s are lovely showing the Autumn colors of the trees and the sky so blue, probably a bit cold, even tho it looks warm. I think my brain/memory needs a holiday I thought I told you how much I loved your blanket and the edge is so different and am in love with it, but no I didn’t. I used cloth nappies all the time with my three, a bit extra washing but lighter on my pocket and my kids bottoms didn’t like the disposable ones. Yes they do look huge in the bum area, very cute tho as is TTB. You are going great, I didn’t get things done like you with my first, I felt like I was in a muddle for a while. Oh I am the same with the lack of good light during winter. I have been better this year with crochet to take my mind of it and working during the day keeps my mind off the darker days. We are now in Spring, the days are getting longer and day light savings has started.
    Have a wonderful day, take care.
    xox Sandi

  26. sue lane says:

    You are doing so well,it is lovely to know you are feeding him and he is doing so well on it,with the onset of darker days i always plan a few projects evenly if they are not finished by the end of the winter. Do you have any mum and baby groups you could visit, usually the health visitor can help, getting out with the pram is a great idea i do remember walking alot with my first, and enjoying the seasons, lovely pictures that you took.
    sue

  27. Karen says:

    You are doing grand my Dear !!
    Everything you should be doing right now… Enjoying TTB- who is scrumptious in his red hood- letting your body get in balance again (those hormones are still fluctuating wildly), and just getting settled into a routine.
    And getting out with a bit of walking around out in the daytime is good for the spirit and your peace of mind !!
    TTB’s little footsies & toesies are just too sweet !!
    xoxo

  28. I can’t do anything but echo what everyone else is saying! So impressed with you managing to blog with the littly – you’re doing stupendously. TTB looks proper content in that little duffle of Rach’s. Well done Rach :) x

  29. AuntySally says:

    Hi Heather, you’ve produced a gorgeous TTB and what wonderful head control for a 4 week old! He’s a strong little boy. From the Mum of 2 sons who are now a bit older than yours I can honestly advocate a decent disposable at night time (no changing required for night time feeds and better Mummy sleeps)and a re-usable for day.
    Take many photos and cherish every moment good and not so good. Before you know it he’ll be 16, with a learner drivers permit and a social life better than yours!

  30. Sue says:

    My babies loved to sit in the bouncing cradle and watch what was going on. I see that Mothercare still sell these at a reasonable price, amazing.

    I think that my second baby went through the night just as I was thinking that I could not get up for another night, about 6 weeks. The first was an exception as she was an undiagnosed lactose intolerant baby. She did not sleep through the night until the day I brought the second baby home when daughter 1 was nearly 3 years old!!!

    You are doing well. Housework will always wait. The most important things are getting everybody fed and clean clothes to wear.

  31. Liz says:

    You are doing just fine. Breast feeding is such a wonderful experience, I would express some and freeze it ready to put in cereals when they get to that stage, you have a while yet!!
    I used reusable nappies for all my 3 boys. I think you have to choose them carefully these days, 15 yrs ago there was not much choice!!

    The sooner you get into a bedtime routine the better, bath, feed, bed. That way he will recognise it`s time for sleep and connect his crib/cot with sleep. Good luck with that but I think the younger the better.

    You certainly get lots of advice in your comments!!
    Remember to rest when he does, your body is producing his milk as well as energy for you!

  32. Our daughter used towelling nappies for our little granddaughter and they were a great success. She only stopped using them a few months before she was ready for potty training and Caroline didn’t like dealing with the dirty nappies. OK when they’re little babies!
    You have a lovely little chap! Keep on enjoying him.

  33. Our daughter used towelling nappies for our little granddaughter and they were a great success. She only stopped using them a few months before she was ready for potty training and Caroline didn\’t like dealing with the dirty nappies. OK when they\’re little babies!
    You have a lovely little chap! Keep on enjoying him.

  34. MsZeb says:

    Heather, you’re doing fabulously well. I don’t know who manages to get their young babies into a routine so early on but it wasn’t me and it all worked out in the end. There are YEARS ahead of routines and one of the joys of breast feeding is the flexibility it gives you. My first baby was verrrrry grizzly and the days seemed long and lonely till I hooked up with mums at a post natal group and we met at a different home each week (no judging about each other’s domesticity – enough chairs/a clear floor to sit on an achievement in itself) and so many people happy to share a weird thing their baby did, that actually all our babies did, or to offer advice in a non judgemental way. And there was a LOT of walking too. Very soon you’re going to get that genuine, not related to wind, first smile and then, oh my god, your heart will burst…. Xx

  35. Stephanie says:

    Hi Heather!
    I just love your blog and discovered it this summer. I live in New Mexico in the USA and think that your amazingly talented… You and Lucy have inspired me to crochet again and I have even ordered stylecraft yarn from across the pond and love all the colors!!!
    You are such a sweet mamma, all my blessings to you and your new family and adventure…
    Happy crocheting!!
    Stephanie

  36. Kate says:

    Well done mommy! You are doing (and looking) fantastic! I am 3wks ahead of you, my boy is 7wks and can confirm that the nights get better, my man is now sleeping in 4hour blocks at night before needing boobytime! I know what you mean about the seasonal wobble too……ihave been the same :-)
    Keep up the good work, ttb is utterly thriving……i think you must be brewing him double cream with his fab weight gain! Xxxx

  37. What a wonderful, tiring, brilliant and tearful time the beginning of having a baby can be….I have three boys, but remember it well….someone told me with my first that growth spurts came at 3 week intervals and it always did seem to follow, and then made me panic less when it happened knowing that it would settle back down and two hourly feeding wasn’t going to happen forever…huge relief!

    There can be so much pressure and angst with a first baby, but just know that for you everything is normal, everyone does things differently and that’s fine, you have to figure out what works best for you.

    Two of my closest friends used real nappies and always ended up in bigger bottoms with the leg taken up, they toilet trained more easily but they found it funny to see their little ones with skinny bottoms!

  38. I love TTBs little red knitted duffel it’s totally adorable :) He also has the cutest feet!! Curious, does he have a name or will it remain secret :)

  39. The red duffel coat is lovely. I am still trying to finish my birth story and Stashlet was born 20 months ago! The Nappy Lady (and probably other sties too) has vest extenders which are little strips of fabric with poppers at both ends – you use them to make the crotch bigger on baby clothes – great when your wee one is is cloth nappies.

  40. melissa says:

    oh and ladies, don’t stress too much on not getting the birth stories in a hurry…believe me….you will NEVER FORGET. =) I can give you a blow-by-blow epistle of my first one (30 hours thankyouverymuch), and he’ll be 23 in a month. and that stuff about “forgeting the pain” was a load of you-know-what. =)

  41. Oh I want a cuddle! He is adorable and I love the red jacket. You are lucky to have such a good feeder – my little man was too and it makes such a difference and it is great to have a nice chunky baby to cuddle! Such intensive feeding will soon pass and he’ll be able to empty you in minutes. :)
    We use Little Lambs too, although the two parters, and I love them. Really easy to use.
    Abigail x

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