Three Weeks

Yesterday it was three whole weeks since Tiny Tin Bird was born. Three weeks! How can time simultaneously fly and stand still? I know that lots of people told me that time would fly, and they were right. I have been doing my level best to enjoy and treasure these early days though and I think I am doing well at that. I have been taking oodles of photographs and it’s incredible looking through them as you can see him changing each day. I can’t quite believe that my birth and hospital experience is getting further and further away. It was such a huge, huge deal for me that it’s taken a while to be able to start to let it go. I do still think about it a lot every day. I’m using spare moments to type up all my memories of it so that I don’t forget the small things. I’ve written 2700 words so far and have only just reached the part where I was induced – so much left to type but I’m glad that I’m doing it. I’m sure it’s the same for every woman but when people see my baby I want them to know exactly what I went through to get him, dammit! (I do have to be careful not to overshare heh.)

Today I ordered a photobook from Photobox after taking advantage of their sale last week. I have filled an 80 page photobook with just his first two weeks. I’m so glad that I did. The photos are immensely important to me and I’m glad that I’ve ordered them in a book as I’d never get round to putting them into an album.

It is hard to remember all of the small things though. I want to remember each expression that he makes from the frantic wild eyed look and beating hands he used to get when I latched him on each time (that expression has already stopped) to the sweetest little rosebud mouth he makes when happy and content. How he had his first bath the other day and seemed to enjoy it (and wee’d all over my mother in law) but didn’t like his hair being washed. How he makes himself into a pudding when he snuggles up when he is tired, but now he is getting more alert and likes to lay flat on his back (whilst looking into your eyes) with his arms by the side and his legs as straight and as long as he can get them. He knows his own mind and is very very strong. He climbed up me yesterday when I was holding him.

I want to remember the snuggly morning cuddles after his first feed, and the way he gazes out of the window when I lay him on the bed. How he is so besotted with Andy and is all happy and excited when they play together.

I’ve learnt a lot too … for example, always have your nappy changing gear open and laid out before you even think of unpoppering a sleepsuit! How he will always want me right now and that I just need to go with that. To always have two muslins when feeding. That sleep is something that I’m not going to get much of right now, but that I really do feel ok during the daytime and that I love feeding him in the night. I do not love changing him in the night. That it’s ok to stand and sway him to sleep rather than sitting with him in case I fall asleep. That if he is safe, it is ok to let him to cry while I have a shower. That newborn cheeks smell the best. Always feed him before I go out. To snuggle him as much as possible because he is never going to get any smaller. That if he falls asleep after feeding on one side it is only a matter of time before he wants the other side! That he will always, always want to feed when I eat my dinner – this is ok as long as I remember to pre-chop my food into small pieces before I sit down so that I can eat one handed. That my routine is important to me and he is showing signs of wanting a routine too. That sometimes he will just cry over nothing, and as long as he is ok then that’s all right.

It’s going ok so far.

33 thoughts on “Three Weeks

  1. This might get me stoned ;0) When my son was an infant as long as his skin was healthy I did not change a wet nappy during the night, unless it was sodden. DOn’t know if that will work for you , or if you want it to, it was my way of squeezing a few more minutes sleep out for me…and of course, if I didn’t change him I didn’t wake the milk-sodden sleepy thing ;0)

  2. This might get me stoned ;0) When my son was an infant as long as his skin was healthy I did not change a wet nappy during the night, unless it was sodden. DOn\’t know if that will work for you , or if you want it to, it was my way of squeezing a few more minutes sleep out for me…and of course, if I didn\’t change him I didn\’t wake the milk-sodden sleepy thing ;0)

    AApologies if I have managed (another ) double post)

  3. Oh my that has brought a tear to my eye, it is so obvious how much you love TTB in your words. One day he will read your words and I am sure his love will grow even more for his Mom.

    It sounds to the novice I am that you are doing more than ok!!

    x

  4. Sue says:

    Oh yes I never changed a nappy in the night for daughter 2 and she has sensitive skin and did not suffer from this lack of clean nappy. This way she had a feed and went straight to sleep. I learnt the hard way with daughter 1.

    Babies like routines, sadly as soon as you get into a routine they change that routine for a new one LOL.

    I have heard from friends with sons that you have to be careful with boys as they love to wee all over you :-)

  5. I love reading about you and TTB and your first day together. Yes, time flies, when I read you I think it was yesterday I felt the same for my children, but they are 13 and 16 years old so it wasn’t yesterday. Go on treasuring all this wonderful moments!!!

    Thank you for sharing your feelings with us.

    Greetings from Spain

  6. I love reading about you and TTB and your first day together. Yes, time flies, when I read you I think it was yesterday I felt the same for my children, but they are 13 and 16 years old so it wasn\’t yesterday. Go on treasuring all this wonderful moments!!!

    Thank you for sharing your feelings with us.

    Greetings from Spain

  7. One of the midwives told me once to forget about changing nappies overnight, unless the baby is wet through or disgustingly pooey of course. It helps settle them quicker.

    I can’t count how many times I’ve fallen asleep sitting up feeding a baby. It’s quite disconcerting but so far all my kids have survived! Even in sleep you seem to be aware of your baby at all times. My littlest is 4 months old and is getting to the point where I introduce solid foods, now that’s going to shake up things a little.
    xXx Helen

  8. Heather, you are really a great mom. TTB is a lucky little man. Reading your words brings back memories of my two, who are now 35 and 33. I remember many nights feeding and then the baby not wanting to go back to sleep right away. With my second one, I would lie down on the sofa with him between me and the back and be able to doze while he played himself back to sleep. Oh, those were such sweet days. Thank you so much for helping me remember them.

    Hugs,
    Sharon

  9. sue lane says:

    The memories will always be with you, the smell, the touch the joy, my first “baby” was born 27 years ago, i ended up with an emergency c section, it takes a while but is all soon forgotten, the years go by fast, an elderly lady once stopped and told me when i was pushing the pram to savour every moment, i have been blessed to be at home i havent missed a thing, just enjoy.
    sue

  10. penelope dubois says:

    I love reading about your experiences.
    I am babysitting my daughters newborn, Rylan is now almost 3 months. I am experiencing all these things again. The changes are daily!
    Nothing like a baby smile, makes you wanna melt.

  11. Sounds like you’re doing more than just ok. Your last paragraph was full of the ‘real’ advice that us older moms would give you and yes, it really is ok if he cries while you shower. He’ll be fine and there’s a little part of him that has to understand that mom has to do stuff without him sometimes. Regarding changing nappies in the night, I gave up changing my eldest in the deepest dark cos as soon his nappy came off he would wee all over himself and me and the changing table!! I guess it was the cool air hitting his skin! After 4 nights of being drenched I decided to leave him til morning unless he was really wet! Don’t tell anyone else tho, will you….. xxx

  12. Nanita says:

    You’re a natural mum, Heather! I’m so happy to read about your experiences and see how incredibly well you are doing :-) xxxx
    (pssst, you might want to change the “About Me” section when you get the chance ;-))

  13. Brenda says:

    What a lovely post heather, motherhood is such a huge learning curve isn’t it! You sound as if you are doing a wonderful job, enjoy every moment of it , you have an amazing couple of decades ahead of xxBrenda

  14. You’ve obviously settled into motherhood … you are a great mother and so organsied … photobooks already … I still haven’t sorted that and mine are 6,5 and 2 and a half … shame on me :) Bee xx

  15. Lin says:

    Hi, i’ve been a quiet blog reader of yours for ages and love reading about TTB. My little girl is 10wks old and your right about them changing so quickly, I miss the early days so much!
    I followed my moms advice about not changing my daughters nappy at night time and it hasn’t caused us any problems and she hasn’t had any nappy rash :D. I’m sure some members of the parenting police would have me shot at dawn, but the best advice i’ve been given is that your the expert on your baby, so go with what works 4 u!

  16. Carolyn Dietrich says:

    You will be so happy you are writing it all down and taking so many pictures. I’m 66 now and my babies have grown up and are 43 and 41 and have children of their own. So I know how much all this will mean to you and to him in the future. You are doing so well at adjusting to motherhood. Bravo!

  17. Carolyn Dietrich says:

    You will be so happy you are writing it all down and taking so many pictures. I\’m 66 now and my babies have grown up and are 43 and 41 and have children of their own. So I know how much all this will mean to you and to him in the future. You are doing so well at adjusting to motherhood. Bravo!

  18. Twigwoman says:

    Well that surely brought back memories of when I had my very first (now 31) and the 26, 22 and 9 yr olds as well in their time…
    thanx for bringing into focus memories from many lifetimes ago :)
    Wonderful to feel those warm connected knowing of purpose days sights and smells…. Savor it all.

  19. You are so lucky to be able to document all these days with TTB. Amy is now 13 and it’s very hard to recall the days when she was a baby (having a blood clot when she was 2 weeks old doesn’t help). Make sure you take video too – much as I love photos I think video really is the best for capturing childhood.

  20. Heather you are such a natural Mum, that bond you have with your little baby will be there for all time now. Thank you for sharing again, I just love reading what you have to say.

  21. You make me sad that I will never have another newborn baby to look after! You’re right to document all these things because it is all too easy to forget them – you can never have too many photographs of your baby.
    x

  22. Siobhan says:

    I actually don’t have that many pictures of my daughter. She was a baby in the days before digital photography so you ended up with 2 thirds of your pictures printed that were awful and looked nothing like you hoped. I do have lots from early baby-hood though. However, for me, memories of my daughter lie close to my heart without photos and I have little snap shots in my head from certain times which I have never forgotten (like the one age three in her little frilled stripy pink shorts, and wearing bunches in her hair, skipping along holding my hand, as she was going to play group – so happy!). My daughter is your age now but she is and ever will be as dear to me as the day she was born. What they look like changes from time to time, but who they are never does. Don’t worry about baby growing up, all stages are wonderful and have new things to show you. I remember clearly the day she was born too. I don’t think you ever forget.

  23. Lissa says:

    I’d just like to say, what is it with babies who always have to be fed at dinner time? I was with my aunt on several different occasions when her second child was under a year old, and it seemed like every time we sat down to dinner, he wanted to be fed. It was a running joke after a while that she just wouldn’t serve her own plate until she’d fed him!

    It’s awesome to feel like I’m experiencing his growth along with you. My mother and I exclaim over all the photos you share and I really enjoy the glimpse into your life.

  24. Emma says:

    Congratulations! You sound like you’re doing just grand. I’m another who didn’t to night nappy changes unless he was pooey or soaked through. Oooo you’ve made me all broody! Enjoy him, my youngest is 17 months and I’m wondering where my baby went…

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