Baby Thoughts

Rach visited on Sunday and brought some gifts for Tiny Tin Bird. How sweet are these elephant trousers? They have a big bum to allow for nappies :-D

I’ve been thinking a lot about the things that I need to get for TTB. There are two lists in my head, one for things that I NEED to get and one for things that I WANT to get. I have been wary of talking about this since an incident on Facebook where I expressed a desire to purchase a baby bath (a modest purchase of perhaps £6 or so) and I was set upon by a rowdy bunch of friends who tore me limb from limb informed that I would not need a baby bath because you can wash babies in the sink. Well fair enough perhaps you can, but at that point we didn’t even have a bath for me and Andy and I wanted to be sure that I had some way set out in my head that I could clean this little baby. I don’t like the idea of washing the baby in the sink very much either, although I appreciate that some people do. That’s fine. (Also helps if your sink is a big white Belfast sink which ours is certainly not.)

Anyway, I’m just careful of saying things that could incite well meaning but ultimately frustrating advice. I don’t really think that babies NEED a whole lot. Some clothes to wear, somewhere to sleep, something to be safe in the car, something to travel around in, some blankets and a baby monitor. I am very fortunate in that I have been gifted a whole supply of baby clothes (thank you!) so I don’t really need to worry about that right now.

My “Need” list so far is: Cot and mattress, cot bedding (sheets really I guess), car seat, baby monitor, pram.

My “Want” list is: Ergo baby carrier.

That’s it really. I think nearer the time I might be a bit more anxious to get everything sorted but right now I feel like there is pleeeeeeenty of time and it will all get sorted. My main concern is saving up for Expensive Pram. I did a lot of research and pram-testing and Expensive Pram (which I had ruled out from the start because of being expensive) is the only one which fits our need. I get the heeby jeebies thinking about spending that much on one item but I think overall the cost will be justified. (Have also looked into 2nd hand. Not yet convinced but I don’t want you to think we’ve not thought of it.) I think if we just eat soup and jacket potatoes until that time then we can afford it!

Now then. In all this thinking about baby equipment and what I need and what I don’t need and what people will tell me I don’t need/sh0uldn’t have/will look silly with I have overlooked something which is really quite exciting. There’s still aaages of time to go before this kind of thing will be necessary but on Saturday I was having a bit of a reminisce about the toys we had as children and I suddenly remembered: Duplo! Lego! Playmobil! Train sets! Toy farms! Toy kitchens! For a good half hour I was absorbed by Amazon, looking at all the Duplo you can get. You can even get a zoo set which is VERY similar to the one we had as children (still in the loft at home). How ace is that? I know having a child will be tiring and difficult (I’m so not thinking about that part, what’s the point? It’s gonna happen, no point worrying about it.) but you know, I am going to get to PLAY with this child! Give him/her a childhood and I am really excited about doing that. It’s a lot of responsibility, providing someone’s childhood but also something to look forward to. Imaginative play, walks in the park, pushing the swings, feeding the ducks, learning about shadows, counting things, teaching about seasons and holidays and food and words and numbers. I even have a recipe for playdough.

There is so much to look forward to and it is all that which I think about with every little kicky pokey nudge in the stomach :-)

Edit: Oh Cuckoo, so much to look forward to! Knicker canoes, that’s tickled me :-D

46 thoughts on “Baby Thoughts

  1. Ah! Cute little trousers!!
    Please don’t worry about what other people say you need or don’t need, every parent and every baby is different and so different things work for different people. I didn’t have a moses basket but did have a very lovely pram with a proper carrycot that my little baby slept in at night (some thought this odd). I didn’t buy a baby bath but bathed WITH my baby (midwife was HORRIFIED!!! but baby was much happier being cuddled in the bath!). I followed the advice about not buying many first size clothes because babies grow SO quickly – and mine grew at a snails pace and I had to buy more teeny tiny things! Do whatever works for you and your little family, what feels right to you, not just what other people say is right! If you are happy, your baby will be too.
    with love
    Karen x x x

  2. Awwww…you’re making me jealous by listing all the playful things you get to do with your little one! –Fortunately, I did already get to do those with my two daughters, but I miss it now! – And I’m so happy for you for thinking such lovely thoughts! Your baby is already so blessed to have you for a Mom:-) Stay well and enjoy your pregnancy, isn’t it like magic that you’ve actually CREATED A PERSON ?? :-)

  3. Aaaahhhh, your last paragraph! You (and Andy and extended family) are the most important thing your baby needs – I tell you memories are not made of the stuff you get for your children, they are made of the things you do with your children!

    Having said that, you will definitely need muslin squares and I say this because I have some I don’t need any more and need someone to palm them off onto! Seriously, they are yours if you want them – they are incredibly handy for mopping up baby sick and other unmentionables! I have some other stuff you may be interested in but I think I’ll mail you about that. xxx

  4. Heather you will be a wonderful mother. You do what suits you re all the baby bits and pieces.xx

  5. The other comments are totally true, you must do what you feel is right. I didn’t attend antenatal classes, I only bought the few things I knew would be needed, exactly as you have listed! I even forgot to pack a bag as the time for baby drew near. My husband got a parking ticket on the day and forgot to bring the new baby clothes. However I got through it without trauma or pain relief (didn’t expect that) and now have a happy, healthy 13 year old. Now I’m feeling old but looking forward to your updates as all my friends have teenage children and none of us have plans for any more…..xx

  6. Have a baby carrier thingy (not Ergo)but does the same job! Navy but can’t remember the make. It’s yours if you want it … just email with postal address if you do.

  7. You choose the things that are important to you to get for your baby. The one thing I scoffed at was an electric swing that we were given, turned out to be a life saver though! Just enjoy all the planning and exploring and most of all your pregnancy!

  8. I had no clue about babies, but ended up having 3 of them! Finally we discovered what caused them!!! I had friends who had their noses in books checking every little thing (in those early days before the internet), I had nothing. But, I’ve raised and kept animals all my life and frankly, it was good training. Babies just need lots of love and a bit of common sense – obviously food etc, nappies etc etc. You’ll do fine. Don’t worry about it – it’s great that you’re looking forward to the toys – the best thing I ever bought our daughter was a duplo riding stables – I had hours and hours of fun!

  9. I hear you Rachel :) people definately all have different lists of things they want their babies to have – and only when said baby is 2 and a half do you realise you didn’t need whatever it was you just had to have at 26 weeks pregnant! I can thoroughly recomend moby baby wrap/sling – I had one for my second baby and it was a life saver! I’m also a fan of real nappies and there are lots of options out there nowadays for those choosing bumfluff rather than throw aways! Gorgeous trousers btw :) – and I have embarked on a rainbow ripple blanket for a friend of mine who is expecting :) and I couldn’t have done that without your lovely examples! Thank you! xx

  10. I could rattle on about what I thought I needed, and what I ended up needing, but you sound like you’ve been overwhelmed with advice already, so all I’ll say is this:

    Don’t bother getting breast feeding or bottle feeding paraphernalia until after the birth. I was all set to breast feed (the bras, the pads…) and then had to go to bottles because of a not-enough-milk/too-hungry-baby combo, so there are bras and pads in my cupboard waiting to go on Ebay. In fact, if you want them, let me know.

  11. Hi Heather, I think you should buy your beautiful baby whatever you want. After all, it’s YOUR baby, no-one else’s (and Andy’s of course) and it’s your first. Everything is so new and exciting when it’s baby number 1. Good luck and lots of love xxx

  12. Such a fun time in your lives! I think it’s lovely to have nine months to gather and nest, and build up to the big arrival! Congratulations again!

  13. Pretty much what everyone else said, and especially the muslin squares. I bought two packs for my first child, two more when I had my third, and they did the fourth and were still coming in handy as cleaning cloths 10 years later. You can *never* have two many muslin squares. Everything else though … buy what *you* want to buy Heather! And have fun with it :D

  14. Hi Heather,
    OMG I can’t believe people would set upon you for something as simple as a baby bath! Buy what you want and can afford, this is your child and your time -enjoy it. Just don’t stress about stuff, yes you have to buy things so buy what works for you and makes things easy and less stressfull for you, In the end that will make you happy, happy mum = happy baby. xxBrenda

  15. It sounds like you are doing exactly what is right for you, your husband and your baby. The pram/pusher thing MUST be workable, so if the expensive one is the right one for your needs then go for it. And likewise, if you want a $6 bath (sorry no pound on my keyboard) then get one. I have an Ikea baby bath which I think cost all of $6, but I got for $1 on ebay! Bargain. And when baby no longer fits you have a handy dandy laundry basket until the next one comes along.

    One thing you might find handy, like the muslin squares, are cloth nappies. Even if you don’t intend to use them as nappies they are very handy for sick and wee spills, and also for use as change mats when you are out and about. They still get daily use in my household.

    It is an exciting time, I only have 4 weeks to go (officially, but probably less) and I have one daughter sleeping in my bed with me, one daughter in the cot and the next baby is just going to have to make do with the pram for the time being. After the baby is born I will be buying both girls their own beds and then the baby can have the cot. It will be a bit of a shuffle but it is all doable.

    xXx Helen

  16. There is so much opinion out there for both buying everything and getting by with the minimum, it needs to be whatever is right for you, just like the pram! So exciting for you to plan a home, childhood and future for your Tiny Tin Bird, enjoy it and don’t worry about what the others say, you don’t have to wash your baby in the sink if you don’t want to! :) x

  17. Always been a lurker and enjoy your blog. I think you should move that Ergo into the NEED category. It’s been the best thing I’ve gotten and come fall I’ll be using it for kiddo 4. Plus they have great resale value.

    Congrats on your little to be.

  18. Where we live babies are carried on backs, not advisable if the child is a toddler! Go with what feels good to you Heather, your not stupid.
    Much love tricia
    South Africa

  19. Congratulations Heather on your joyful news. You have a great support network of family and friends and love to give to your longed for baby. Don’t stress about what your baby will need- enjoy making things with love and the rest will follow. Glad you have a shower at last-it must be wonderful to use it after such a long time without. .

  20. Congratulations Heather on your joyful news. You have a great support network of family and friends and love to give to your longed for baby. Don\’t stress about what your baby will need- enjoy making things with love and the rest will follow. Glad you have a shower at last-it must be wonderful to use it after such a long time without. .

  21. Congratulations on your baby news!
    Muslim squares are a definite must have – they are invaluable like everyone else has said!
    Have you looking into the NCT Nearly New Sales? They are a great place to pick up some excellent bargains and I wish I’d known about them before I had my 2 kids. There is one in Sheffield on 12th May but it might be a bit far/too early for you to come. If you want any details though just let me know.

  22. You are a sensible sausage. I think you’ll know what you need and have it all in time for the arrival. Besides babies are born in caves and huts and survive just fine.

    I think you have made the hardest decision and that’s the pushchair one. But now you know you have baby transport and a place for it to sleep all sorted.

    I’d listen to every piece of advice offered but only act on that which suits you.

    My bit of advice today is make sure you have lots of breast pads (colostrum really stains and starts to leak quite early sometimes) and HUGE (and I really mean massive) sanitary pads, or knicker canoes if you will. No one ever warned me about just how much stuff comes out afterwards. That was the worst part for me. The total shock of how messy it was for a good few days after the birth. I had three in because when I lay down it all leaked up my back if I didn’t!! TMI? Just you wait, as the pregancy goes on you’ll lose all your dignity just like me!!! Ha ha haaa! Cackling!!!!!!

    xxx

  23. Belated congratulations, other people will have many many opinions about baby’s needs, mine I’ve found were actually very very good at telling me. son1 happy as larry in fancy pants bassinet attachment for pram, son2 only a sling and co sleeping would do. In retrospect very sensible as son1 couldn’t prod him. Enjoy this precious time . PS there is a sling library that meets in your town once a mnth where you can hire them which may be worth a go to see which you get on with. If you decide to go with cloth nappies I would be pleased to send you some v cute animal decorated motherease wraps, that are cluttering up my flat

  24. Belated congratulations, other people will have many many opinions about baby\’s needs, mine I\’ve found were actually very very good at telling me. son1 happy as larry in fancy pants bassinet attachment for pram, son2 only a sling and co sleeping would do. In retrospect very sensible as son1 couldn\’t prod him. Enjoy this precious time . PS there is a sling library that meets in your town once a mnth where you can hire them which may be worth a go to see which you get on with. If you decide to go with cloth nappies I would be pleased to send you some v cute animal decorated motherease wraps, that are cluttering up my flat

  25. Hello, I am quite new to your blog and found you after becoming obsessed with Lucy @ the Attic’s colourful crochet. Was very excited to hear your news re: Tiny Tin Bird after reading back through Lucy’s old posts recently about the birth of Little B (I have a 2 1/2 year old and an 8 month old myself and there’s something lovely about reading about people’s lives around that exciting time of having small people!)
    Anyway, what I wanted to say (but felt it was rude to do so without some sort of an introduction) was that if you would consider a secondhand Ergo the Natural Mamas website and For Sale Or Trade forum is fabulous for picking up a bargain. Just be careful as some of the Ergos on sale on eBay for similarly bargain prices can be fakes and can be not as safe as an authentic model. Just if you do decide to go down the baby carrier route… (which, not wishing to encourage you too much, but I would totally recommend as baby loves being close to you and it’s one of the only ways to get some hands-free time, especially in the early days) Hope you are able to get plenty of rest at this exciting time and not feeling too under the weather while your Tiny Bird grows x

  26. Hello, I am quite new to your blog and found you after becoming obsessed with Lucy @ the Attic\’s colourful crochet. Was very excited to hear your news re: Tiny Tin Bird after reading back through Lucy\’s old posts recently about the birth of Little B (I have a 2 1/2 year old and an 8 month old myself and there\’s something lovely about reading about people\’s lives around that exciting time of having small people!)
    Anyway, what I wanted to say (but felt it was rude to do so without some sort of an introduction) was that if you would consider a secondhand Ergo the Natural Mamas website and For Sale Or Trade forum is fabulous for picking up a bargain. Just be careful as some of the Ergos on sale on eBay for similarly bargain prices can be fakes and can be not as safe as an authentic model. Just if you do decide to go down the baby carrier route… (which, not wishing to encourage you too much, but I would totally recommend as baby loves being close to you and it\’s one of the only ways to get some hands-free time, especially in the early days) Hope you are able to get plenty of rest at this exciting time and not feeling too under the weather while your Tiny Bird grows x

  27. Ooohh, yes. I echo Cuckoo’s sentiments. No one ever tells you about the bleeding afterwards. It is REALLY heavy for a few days, but mine lasted about a month or 6 weeks, which apparently is normal. Get the super duper surfboard pads that otherwise you would never buy and only take your old raggedy knickers to the hospital with you because chances are you’ll be binning a few pairs!

    And when your breast milk comes in at first your breasts feel like rocks that are burning up. I slept in bra and breast pads for a good 3 months as the pressure of lying on them, even on your side, causes leakage.

    But aside from the initial discomfort it is something that you just deal with and don’t even take any notice of after a while.

    I also found that one of those triangular pillows was really helpful when sitting up breastfeeding, luckily my parents had one that never got used otherwise so I claimed it!

    xXx Helen

  28. I am afraid it’s so long ago since I had mine (43 this August) that any advice will be outdated I suppose. I would just agree that you don’t need that much, OK you could go on and on spending and spending money that is hard earned. You already have some clothes promised, well I wouldn’t go and buy too many more. You can make some delicious little things yourself. When TTB grows out of those, you might well be given some more. One small baby only needs so many outfits, more are only taking up unnecessary room. You might as well get your pennies worth of what youve got.

    I look forward to seeing your little crocheted things you are making for TTB. Come to think of it, you probably don’t need to BUY anything – I’ll bet some of your blogger friends have some surplus to requirements.

  29. Oh dear, I have absolutely no advice whatsoever to offer you because I don’t have any baby-experience, but count on me for the ooh-ing and aahh-ing! ;-) How cute are those little stripey elephant trousers?! I’m sooo looking forward to seeing all the baby stuff… And really, I know the both of you will do brilliant! :-) xxxx

  30. Congratulations to yourself and Andy…my goodness, what news!!!!! I have been off-line for over two weeks and when I come back you have big, big news about TTB….oh, I am so pleased for you both…I can just imagine those big grins….I am excited for you…gosh I really am grinning like a cheshire cat while I type this….hope you keep healthy and sail through the next months.
    I’m also quite sure that you will be gifted many things and will not need as much as you think…and……I imagine that certain grandparents may be minded to help with the pram…they usually do…hint, hint, grandparents LOL!!!!!
    Loved Rachel’s comment somewhere about while she has money you will not be in need…that was just so special….oh gosh I’m so delighted for you….well done….a great reason to get all the rest of the house sorted for September….my very best wishes to you both.

  31. Heather, I think you are going to be a wonderful mother. You have every right to have a want list; after all it’s your first. This baby will be so loved and cared for, it will be a sweet, happy baby. It’s been a looooonnnnngggg time since I had babies but I still remember the softness, the sweetness, the absolutely overpowering feeling of love I felt. You do what feels right for you and get what feels right. You will be fine.

  32. Heather, I think you are going to be a wonderful mother. You have every right to have a want list; after all it\’s your first. This baby will be so loved and cared for, it will be a sweet, happy baby. It\’s been a looooonnnnngggg time since I had babies but I still remember the softness, the sweetness, the absolutely overpowering feeling of love I felt. You do what feels right for you and get what feels right. You will be fine.

  33. Heather,

    Many belated congratulations!!

    Remember, you’re a mama now and mama decides what goes (and what doesn’t).

    You’re being very sensible to think about all of this now and to at least listen to all the advice. Doesn’t mean you have to apply a bit of it, though. You’ll do what’s just right for you and your wee one. :)

  34. You will do what is right and works for you and baby at the end of the day. Everyone is different. My sister in law would not be without her pram and cant handle a sling , I hardly use our pram and sling (fab choice of carrier btw)the smallest everywhere so I have 2 free hands for the other 2, each to their own at the end of the day.

    You will be a fab mum.xx

    bxx

    ( re carriers/slings http://wyslinglibrary.com/ this may be of interest to you ,though you prob know about it already, I found the Lancashire library brilliant as I could try before I forked out loads of money for one)

  35. Heather please do nag me to sort out Little B’s stuff before you buy anything.
    Someone mentioned muslin squares and I have a whole heap load of them, just remembered. Also cot bedding…Little B will be in a big boys bed by the time LTB comes, so you can have all our bedding (including most fabulous Grobags), also the actual cot if you need/want it?? You’ll just then have to get a new mattress as it’s not recommended to have 2nd hand mattress.
    We bathed all three babes in the bathroom sink, it was ace. when they got too big, we got one of those slopey support thingies for the bath which I can def recommend
    http://www.mothercare.com/Mothercare-Ergonomic-Bath-Support/265758,default,pd.html?cm_sp=ProductFeatures-_-Category%2520landing-_-Mothercare%2520Ergonomic%2520Bath%2520Support
    Anyhow…. just let me know when you’re ready to receive “stuff” ok and I’ll pile it all round
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  36. Big congratulations. My 20 month nephew is stomping around in those elephant ‘tights’, they are so cute on nappy bums! My one year old still goes in her baby bath every night, it’s so much quicker and safer than filling our massive bath so go for it. Good luck with everything, sleep,sleep, sleep as much as you can. xxxx

  37. It is so much fun thinking of all the play things! I have saved alot of childhood things and it is so great to pass these on to our babies!
    People will always put in their negative thoughts, to matter what. Its astounding sometimes what will be said, but the positive comments overweigh it all.
    My daughter has registered at 2 stores and listed what she would like. One store is just for gifts certificates, because its baby furniture. Really helpful for the Mum!
    These are fun times, and can’t wait to see what you crochet!♥♥♥♥

  38. The best advice I can give you is….go with your gut instincts. You will be a fab mummy I can already tell that.
    Yes the first 6 weeks can be weepy, seepy, leaky and tiring, but it soon passes, ask for help to get the occasional time out for a little nap, eat well and you will get through just fine,
    xx Sandi

  39. You can perhaps consider getting a second hand pram as they are so expensive. A lot of expensive prams do last a long time and therefore you are not buying a piece of junk when you get them second-hand. If the wheels look a bit deflated you can always buy some new air tubes for a couple of pounds. We went for that option and have a very expensive when new three wheels pram in very good condition for 50£.But i do agree it is also nice not to get everything second-hand and to buy a few new things for your little one…and there’s nothing wrong with buying a plastic bath for your baby especially considering how cheap they are!

  40. Congratulations!!!! and just breath! That’s the biggest advise I can give you. As for the baby items, I know you think spending sooo much money on a pram is unthinkable, but you have to keep in mind the very good, expensive pram will do for two or three LTBs if you want to have more than one. We spent $500 (Canadian) on a Peg Perego, but after 2 girls and a total of 4.5 years, it is still going strong and we love it! Sometimes you just have to bit the bullet and dig into the pockets. You want to make sure you have the very best on the big items….and as for the baby bath….buy one!! I didn’t bathe either girl in the kitchen sink either.

  41. Big congratulations! Babies are the world’s most wonderful creatures, as you’ll find out. Something you might want to do is crochet a bunch of small blankets – about two feet square – and keep them here and there throughout the house. They’re great for snatching up for feedings, for the baby swing, for the carseat, for cuddling, and for crib use until the baby’s much, much bigger. Babies just love the texture of them. They finger them while they nurse, and hold them to their faces as they fall asleep. That’s why it’s good to have a bunch (so there’s always one available if others are in the laundry).

    Happy for you!

  42. Whoops! Just above, I mentioned little two-foot-square blankets to crochet and keep handy. Wrong! Checked and found that they’re 30 inches (that includes the border on some of them).

  43. Whoops! Just above, I mentioned little two-foot-square blankets to crochet and keep handy. Wrong! Checked and found that they’re 30 inches square (that includes the border on some of them).

  44. Whoops! Just above, I mentioned little two-foot-square blankets to crochet and keep handy. Wrong! Checked and found that they’re 30 inches square (that includes the border on some of them).

    Hope you’re feeling fine!

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